- a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head, to - a set of curves or surfaces whose equations differ only in parameters
I believe that Jesus defines family as so much more. Mark 3:21 notes Jesus' brothers saying, "He is out of his mind..." I don't think this was a joke. I would venture to say that James and the other brothers and sisters of Jesus were probably unbelievers the whole time their brother ministered on this earth. It appears that something happened to Joseph as he is not mentioned after Jesus' 12 year-old trip to the temple. Did he die? Leave? Was there tension, strife and grief in Jesus' family? Duh! Have you experienced those things in your family at some point? (The answer can't possibly be no.)
Throughout the Gospels we watch Jesus restructure this idea of family. He expands the definition to be something so great it's hard to comprehend. I learned this with a little help from the incredible Beth Moore. Recall that Jesus' natural family wasn't too thrilled with the attention and miracles. He left his hometown and began to minister in other areas. In John 2:12 we see that Jesus, his mother, brothers and his disciples reconvened and went to a wedding. And His Disciples. His family was growing. Have you added to your family?
In Mark 4:31-35, Jesus asks, "Who are my mother and my brothers?" I don't imagine this was a well-taken statement by mom and bro. He broadened the definition of family and opened the door to us: "Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother." Praise Jesus for that!
Over time a spiritual family is formed. In one beautiful moment at the foot of the cross, Jesus unites his spiritual family with his biological family. "'Woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple', 'Here is your mother.' From that time on, this disciple took her into his home."
I am exceedingly thankful for Christ's resurrection family. Acts 1:12-14 lists those who were in the upper room waiting on the Holy Spirit. Here's this powerful verse. "...and with his brothers." That's all. But think - his brothers were there. They suddenly were surround by believers - disciples. Waiting. Hoping. The mocking, taunting, teasing, comparing, and complaining was over. Did it take Jesus' death for them to realize? Maybe. But they were there. They believed.
And I just love this! 1 Corinthians 15: 5-7 lists those to whom Jesus appeared after he was resurrected. The Twelve. Five hundred of the brothers and sisters. Then he appeared to James. then to all the apostles. Then he appeared to James.
Jesus always appears to the ones who need to see Him most.
Can you imagine what that reunion must have been like? How powerful that would have been? Would Jesus have said anything or just held his brother? Although James was Jesus' brother, he could not come to God entitled. He came by grace. The same grace that allowed the once mocking brother of Jesus to pen the book of James and become one of the primary leaders of the first church. Wow.
And all this = family. Biological, spiritual, resurrected. And praise Him for all of it! No family is perfect. But every family is ordained by a Sovereign God whether we like to believe it or not. No one gets to pick their parents. God picked for you - He doesn't make mistakes. In the Kingdom of God, family only grows. Never does it shrink. Each family has quirks. Yours isn't as unique as you think it is. We are all a little wacky behind the front door. God chose it for you. And no matter what your circumstance, we are admonished in Isaiah 58:7 not to turn our backs on our flesh and blood.
I am realizing the longer I'm away from home, and the more I minister to thousands of moms and daughters across the nation, that my family is very much the exception. For them I continue to become exceedingly thankful. You might not have been blessed with family in the same way that I have been. God has a reason - maybe it's to change something for future generations.
A family sticks together. Each individual brings strengths to the table - each also brings weaknesses that will occasionally need to be covered. Every person in a family is essential to the health and dynamic of the unit. My mom and I are the fiery, opinionated ones - the movers and shakers. Dad and Kyle are more patient and reserved - not easily offended or wound up. (Thank God.) My new sister-in-law is a beautiful mix of both. A family needs each other.
Family must be a priority. I believe we are called to love God first, our spouse next, then children. Friends, jobs, hobbies are to be farther down on our list of priorities. When Dad came home from work, he was home. There was no talk of work stresses or a briefcase open on the table. No job, deadline, trip or Bunko night is more important than any family relationship. Be there with yours. 100%. 100% of the time. Work and responsibilities will always be there - the loved ones around the table might not be.
A family first needs a foundation that is Christ - solid, immovable, unshakable. The second thing they need is a frame - sturdy, built-to-last. Parents. Mine are grossly in love after 28 years of ups and downs. They still kiss in the kitchen incessantly.
Dads provide affirmation for their kids. What child doesn't crave it? Mine gave it - in abundance. He showed affection constantly. Tickling with Mr. Wiggle Finger on the floor when we were young, to snuggling with me as we watch a movie now. When my engagement ended there was no need for a rebound guy - Daddy's arms were there to hold and snuggle. Dads, your kids are never too old for you to hug them and love on them.
And Moms, they have the scary responsibility of shaping a child's self esteem and level of confidence. They can fill their child's bucket so full that no hole poked in it by the world will leak enough out to make a difference. They also have the ability to chip away at a child's confidence and value by constantly criticizing and belittling. My mother has filled my bucket to overflowing. Moms, take the responsibility seriously and watch your words - even if they are meant to tease, it can leave permanent damage. Don't clip their wings if you want them to fly someday.
Siblings. I'm glad Jesus had them. I think they are God's way of helping us develop patience here on earth. I love my brother and we've always been close. This is not to say that I might have been inspired by The Parent Trap when I was ten and decided to booby-trap his room. It's also possible that to retaliate my little brother hung his dirty underwear from the ceiling fan, locked me in his room and turned it on high so they flung all over me.... Brothers and sisters are built-in, life-long friends. Trust, transparency, friendship. (Just like in the picture above - Ky wanted to do the trust fall. He knew I would be there to catch him.)
Even though you grow up, part ways and make your own families, never neglect the importance of a sibling. You will always need them. They will always need you. (For the record I didn't realize Ky was actually going to fall... I tried to catch him - I really did!)
A family helps carry one another's burdens.
They hold you up when you're down.
They lead you to the One who can heal.
Love covers a multitude of sins.
Love is willing to sacrifice anything and everything for the sake of another.
Love waits, believes, hopes, trusts - it doesn't quit and never does it fail.
A family built on Love doesn't quit and never does it fail.
Maybe you have not been blessed with what you consider to be the ideal family. God picked your parents - He used them to help you become the person you are. To establish the family you one day want. Forgive. Don't give up on family. Study how Jesus restructured His own. How He can restructure yours. With God, no family situation is beyond hope and healing. Forgiveness is a choice. Love is a choice. Family is a choice.
By no means is my family perfect. We've had our share of disagreements, arguments, ups, downs, challenges and victories. I do know that my family strives to be to others a picture of grace; a picture of the Gospel.
A family is a reflection of Christ - of love, acceptance, mercy, grace and adoption to the rest of the world. If Satan can destroy the family unit - he can diminish the picture of the Gospel. Don't let Satan take your family down.
*Photo credits to Mr. Zane Rader
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